I often find myself fantasizing about being tied up, feet and hands with a blind fold over my eyes, so that I am completely surrendered. I want to receive smacks on my as well as my hair being pulled. I also fantasize of the complete opposite. I imagine a dark room filled with illuminating lavender scented candles. The lights are completely off with a soft romantic song playing in the background. There would be the use of feathers or even light touch. There would be gentle kissing along with soft breathing. Slow and soft is this fantasy.